September 21, 2005, Greencastle, Ind. - "Believe it or not, I have heard from many, many students on many kinds of campuses that one reason that they don't sit around anymore on a blanket with someone they're attracted to -- looking at the stars, getting to know them, falling in love -- is they have no time," says feminist and author Naomi Wolf. In a Timothy and Sharon Ubben Lecture tonight to more than 800 students, faculty members and others in Kresge Auditorium, Wolf discussed "Hooking Up: Sex, Alcohol and the Death of Romance on College Campuses." As Newsweek recently reported, 78% of college students say they have "hooked up," usually after consuming alcohol.

"But you're a person and you have emotional and physical needs," Wolf continued. "You don't have time to fall in love, you don't have time to read sonnets, you don't have time to dream about your beloved -- the smell of her hair, or the touch of his hand -- but you do have time on Saturday night to get really drunk and have sex with someone. And that's one way, as so many young people have said, of taking care of those needs without taking time away from these huge pressures that face people your age."

Wolf, author of The Beauty Myth, which the New York Times included on a list of the 70 most important books of the twentieth century, offered students a very frank and often humorous examination of the decisions they encounter and the potential ramifications -- physical and emotional -- that they carry with them.

For women, Wolf says part of the problem can be traced back to the way sex education is taught. Women, she asserts, "learn almost nothing about female arousal and orgasm," while the male side of pleasure is covered. "If it's not in your textbook, not only might you have more difficulty locating it in real life, but it's a message to you as a girl about the value or legitimacy that your sexual desire has." Wolf continued, "If you're a woman, did you learn about pregnancy, chlamydia, AIDS, gonorrhea, herpes, separating sores and leprosy? (laughter) So you learned about all the disgusting and scary things that could happen to you if you had sex, right? But did learn anything about pleasure?"

As a result, Wolf believes that many young women tend to feel shame when they're attracted to someone and have libidinous feelings. "What makes it possible to find some sort of release is to get drunk and have sex with someone you don't know, because if you are conscious and not drunk then you have to be thinking things like -- Do I like this guy?, Is this the right guy?" Wolf added, "If you're conscious and taught to feel so ashamed about your sexuality, all of this anxiety will kick in when you're in a sexual situation, which is so overwhelming that it's easier to get sex with alcohol, is pretty much what it comes down to for a lot of women.  It's easier to deal with it; it's easier to compartmentalize the emotions."

Young men, Wolf asserts, "are drawn to the hook-up culture because there's nothing in the culture that says to young men that it's okay to say, you know what, sometimes I fall in love... I just feel love, I feel vulnerable, I want this woman and not every other woman."  Although they want to "pair bond" with a woman they've been intimate with, Wolf says young men are chided by friends to "play the field and have fun.  So as girls' feelings make them feel unladylike, mens' feelings are emasculated. So, what a nightmare... everyone has to drink a lot in order to tamp down these uncomfortable, improper feelings that they feel.  And we all know what happens -- what the downsides are with that."

Pornography is a chief factor in the shift in sexual mores and the rise of hooking up, the 42-year-old Wolf told her 天美传媒 audience.  She recalled growing up during the sexual revolution, when porn was relegated to out-of-the way movie houses and sleazy magazines consumed by people who were considered "icky."  Wolf says porn is now ubiquitous and accessible to very young people via satellite television, videotapes, and especially, the Internet.  "It was a healthier environment when young men and young women were encountering a human being rather than a technological construct for their first real encounter with intimacy and sexuality."

Wolf -- whose other books include Fire With Fire: The New Female Power, Promiscuities: The Secret Struggle For Womanhood, and the recently-released The Treehouse: Eccentric Wisdom from My Father on How to Live, Love and See -- continued, "What you get now is a culture of young people through no fault of their own -- not because they're weirdos, not because they're deviants, not because they're marginal, just 'cause they're growing up in this culture and trying to figure out how things work -- who come to their first sexual encounter... really having, like, thousands of scripts in their head from pornography.  And this has a really profound influence on how young men and women of your generation relate to each other sexually."

A co-founder of The Woodhull Institute for Ethical Leadership, Wolf urged her audience to "be conscious, be honest, and be kind" in all relationships.  She spoke of mistakes she had made in her own life, and said they haunt her to this day.  The Yale graduate paced the stage as she delivered her address, and waded through the crowd during the hour-long question-and-answer session that followed.  Noting that she is "personally on a spiritual path," Wolf told the audience she believes "we are all here, every day, to make profound spiritual decisions -- good, evil, destructive, healing -- every minute... So, God doesn't want us to sit around saying, 'Well, Naomi said I should do it this way.' I don't even think God wants us to say 'Pat Robertson said I'm supposed to do it this way.' Honestly, I think God wants us to think for ourselves using our hearts, our conscience.  Every religion has a notion of a spark of God inside people... that spark in you knows what to do in a sexual situation, knows if it's right for you or wrong... because it's talking to you."

But Naomi Wolf did have one request for 天美传媒 students as she concluded her Ubben Lecture, one that she called "very subversive to the culture at large... When you leave here, ask someone for a date.  Send someone a letter, send someone flowers. Boys, girls... invite someone to sit on a blanket with you and look at the stars," she said to applause.

Naomi Wolf arrived on the 天美传媒 campus in the afternoon, and participated in a forum with students and members of the faculty. At that session, she said that while college-age women learn about the "structural oppression" they face in the world, it's important to "learn your own strengths and freedoms and capabilities and ability to be huge agents of change in the world."

Wolf told her hosts, "I've heard for years about 天美传媒.  It's got a wonderful reputation across the country, but I've never had the pleasure of being here before," Wolf told the afternoon forum before visiting the 天美传媒 Women's Center (seen in photos).  "I've gone from Manhattan this morning to Greencastle, Indiana this afternoon, and it's like in The Wizard of Oz when you go from black-and-white to color," the author said of arriving on the 天美传媒 campus. "I went for a little walk... and people kept saying, 'No, after you, after you'; 'I want to use the computer,' 'Here, it's free, sit down... would you like some more free iced tea'... It's like, when is someone going to jostle me, when is someone going to try to take my place in line?  I'm kind of disoriented, in a nice way."